6 Tips To Become An Intentional Parent
Just as with everything we want to be better at, we need to be intentional and couscous about it. Parenting is no exception. These are my 6 tips to achieving intentional parenting.
3. How were you raised?
This is an important question. In the clients I meet I see a pattern, many of the parents have been raised by authoritarian parents with high demands, much punishment, bribes, and coldness come to me with a wish to parent gently but keep resorting to the same techniques and methods used by their parents. We’ve grown up watching and experiencing a set of parenting techniques, so naturally that is what we know and are accustomed to. That doesn’t mean we want to parent that way. Many promise themselves never to repeat their parents’ mistakes. They try really hard to parent differently, but when tired, frustrated, or angry, resort to the same parenting they’d promised never to do. When this is the case, what we’ve learned from our own childhood is what not to do but not what actually to do. So take a look and write down what you think was good from your childhood and what was not. You’ll need to focus more on the things you don’t want to repeat since you’re more inclined to repeat them.