What is Mindful Parenting & How To Be One
To understand mindful parenting it’s good to start with understanding mindfulness. Mindfulness is to live in the moment, aware of what’s happening both inside and outside you. Being able to know your thoughts, emotions, wants and needs and accept them without judgment. In other words, mindfulness is about acknowledging, accepting, and not jumping to conclusions about yourself or others.
- Set a time each day to mute your phone, turn off all screens, and be physically and mentally present with your children. Thirty minutes is a good time to start with.
- Download a mindfulness app and meditate every day or as often as you’re able. It doesn’t have to be long. Five minutes is enough. I can recommend Buddhify as there are both short and long meditations, and the meditations can be done on the go.
- Exercise to pause when frustrated, angry, and in conflict with your children. Pause, step away and calm down before continuing so you can continue from a calmer and more composed state of mind. The focus in conflicts should not be right and get what you want but learn something about each other, come to an agreement, and teach and model healthy, effective conflict-solving skills.
- Evaluate situations afterward and try to understand what happened and why. Why did your child act and behave as he/she did? There is often a reasonable explanation for their behavior, we just don’t always know and see it.
I’ve written about intentional parenting before, and I’ll write about more approaches soon. I’ve heard the question before, doesn’t all these parenting approaches conflict? Don’t you have to choose one? No, you don’t. None of the approaches I write about are conflicting or opposites. All are about similar topics, and some overlap a lot. Besides, you can cherry-pick the things that suit you and your family. There’s no right or wrong. There’s no right or wrong.